Never doubt who you are or what you stand for. Believe in yourself and make each day count.
This has no hidden meaning and nothing happened for me to write this post. I just had a feeling someone out there needed to hear this.
As I sit here in bed watching Mom’s Night Out (great movie that everyone mom should own and watch every now and then) I’m remembering all the great and all the…ok things about being a mom. As Z is hiking Denali in Alaska today, this is how I spent my morning.
The day when moms are supposed to sleep in and put their feet up, my three crazies wake up at 6am. I turn on a movie, give them some food and go back to bed. 90min later Mia crawls into my bed, gives me a big hug, and says I love you mommy. When I realize they’ve been unsupervised for over an hour I ask Mia what they’ve done while mommy slept. “Dax asleep, Ana wake and eating, Mia pooped in the potty, Shek all done.” Dax is asleep, with a pacifier in and a blanket covering him (not the way I left him). Ana is sitting on the couch eating from the box of lucky charms (only eating the marshmallows of course and I soon see the makeshift ladder built so they could reach them). Mia has no diaper on, pulls me into her bathroom and proudly shows me her poop in the toilet (and thankfully no pee anywhere else). Not a bad Mother’s Day morning learning my 3 year old is ready to start helping out more around the house.
Church was crazy as usual. By the end of the first hour (LDS church is 3hrs every Sunday) I had 5 people helping me control 3 kiddos. How am, one person, able to corral and entertain my kiddos all day every day except for that one hour at church each week when I’m trying to be uplifted and recharged.
The best part of today though, was getting a text first thing this morning inviting me over to a friend’s house for dinner. Her husband and kids are making everything. I get to go over, in sweats and no makeup and have some adult time and eat some tasty food (I was going to do a frozen meal tonight).
So to all of you who’ve been there, I applaud you. We as moms have a tough job and the only way to succeed and take one day at a time. Some times it comes down to one minute at a time.
Well, I haven’t done so great. I’ve eaten well, but haven’t worked out so well. There is improvement though. It’s amazing what eating healthy and drinking only water can do for your body. I know working out is important and it will help me get the definition I want, but eating right is half the battle. Here is what my refrigerator looked like last Monday morning. Due to the severe weather here last week I did not get a chance to go shopping until today, it will look like this before I go to bed tonight.
I struggle with the motivation to work out. Please, if you have any ideas, I welcome them. I started a new job today, and they have group PT twice per week so that should help, but I need to ensure I am using the time the AF allots me to workout as well. I have downloaded My Fitness Pal to track calories (I’m doing it loosely since I’m still nursing, but it does deter me from eating that cookie in the breakroom) and I downloaded a pedometer app so I can track my steps for the day and aim for those 10,000 steps.
So…this month’s results.
I’ve been thinking about the content of this post a lot the past few weeks and my brain has finally connected it all together.
Z is currently out of town and I miss his help most in the mornings. Between taking a shower, nursing D, feeding the girls, dressing everyone, feeding myself, loading everyone and everything and getting out the door on time…it’s a struggle every morning. This past week was no exception. As I pulled out of the development I realized I had not closed the garage door. I pull into the nearest driveway and turn around. As I turn back into our development I notice a turtle. Did I stop and help him to cross the road? Of course not! I was running late. As I approach the house, of course, the garage door is down; I had closed it.
I loop back through the development and upon reaching the development entrance, a SUV is stopped and a woman is helping the turtle to cross the road. This is when the post came together for me.
We all have done this. We’ve either helped or been too busy to help. What we fail to realize when we choose not to help is that the turtle does not know he needs our help. This is true for people in life. There are so many times that we stay in our bubble; too busy to help, too busy to ask how someone is doing, too busy to pick up the phone.
We need to stop being too busy and too consumed with things that don’t matter. I was already running behind. How long would it have taken me to stop, move the turtle and continue on my way? 30-90 seconds? How long does it take to walk around the office and say “Hey, how was your weekend”.
Below is a great TED talk that fits with this perfectly. My commander showed it to my squadron during a Commander’s Call and I love it.
People don’t know they need help until help is offered. These past few weeks I have received help I didn’t know I needed. I realized I didn’t have it as “together” as I thought I did. We all need to be taken care of and we all need to take care of.