3 Down

Just as this Momma was getting worn out, 4 reinforcements came in. Z’s parents and two youngest (there are 6 boys in the family total) brothers came in to town for Turkey Day. It was so nice to have the help and to be honest it was nice to have a reason to clean up my house for the first time since Z has left. D fell in love with his Grandma and repeatedly chose her over me. M and A were so happy to get roughhoused by their uncles. It was the first time I saw how much they missed their dad rather than them just telling me. We had a tasty Thanksgiving dinner and played at Chuck E Cheese. 

Daddy Tracker (a way for me to remember what he’s missed so I can fill him in when he gets home):

Busted lips – 3 (Momma, M, and A)

Edit: Make that 4 another one for A

Poop on the walls – 2 

Sick Days – 1

Cute Sayings – Both courtesy of M.

Mom, Mere! I promise, there’s a mess (the first poop on the walls incident)

Mom, where did Papa go? I NEED him!

Baby Tracker:

I’m currently 34wks. I’ve started getting some braxton hicks and swelling, but nothing serious. Heartburn is killer so if tradition holds true this baby will have lots of hair. I’ve only had one Charley Horse (way better than previous pregnancies). This Friday will give me the first indication of how close to her due date little girl will arrive. Still set on her first name, have 4 middle names we’re trying to choose from.

I Am the Storm

I saw this on a friend’s Facebook feed today and I was immediately inspired. I’m actually sitting at work writing this post because it spoke to me so much.

Today, for about the 100th time, I was asked by a senior leader “How do you all do it?” What he was referencing was me being active duty, Z being active duty and currently deployed, having 3 young kids, and being pregnant with our 4th. I laughed it off and he pushed, he wanted an answer, as did the 3 other senior leaders I was standing with. I told them we just do it (thank you Nike). It’s what we’ve always known and we don’t have a choice. We have to be great at our jobs both as parents, a couple, and officers in the military. That didn’t seem to pacify them. Here were three men, each having a minimum of 15 years in the military, wanting to know the secret recipe to having a successful family and career. 

So here’s the secret recipe that I gave and it can be applied to everything in life. 

1. We know that God has a plan and as long as we do our best it will come to pass. He also doesn’t give us anything we can’t handle.

2. We love deeply. We love ourselves, each other, our kids, our lives. Important note: Love and like are not the same thing 😁

3. We accept everything we are given graciously even if it’s not what we had in mind. This is not always easy and at times, well most times, it takes a while to get the graciously part.

4. We will never sacrifice our family. “BUT Z is missing the birth of your child” they said. True, but Z has to deploy at sometime, he’s going to miss stuff. He also has to deploy to upgrade and to move bases. If he turned down this deployment that timeline would have been delayed and there is a high chance we would be stationed apart in the future because he couldn’t move with us. A small sacrifice to avoid a larger one. We also have done a lot to still incorporate Z intot he family even though he’s not physically with us.

5. We knew it wasn’t going to be easy and we don’t dwell on the hard. Are we in a constant state of survival mode? Some days yes. But what you see as survival mode is our normal. 

So when I saw this quote I thought, I am the storm. I dictate how my family will live. I can control what I can and everything else doesn’t matter. So be storm in life. That doesn’t mean be destructive without regard for others. Take control of your life and live.


Veteran’s Day

This is the first Veteran’s Day that isn’t about getting as many free deals as possible. This one is about being thankful for the sacrifice of my husband and those like my husband. They give up precious family time to defend our country and all those who reside within its boundaries. 

So…how’s it been as a 31wk pregnant mom of 3 kids 3 and under and a husband who is going for some months? 

It’s been ok. Z’s mom was awesome and flew out to help with the kids so we could have some last minute couple time. It also allowed me to drive Z to the airport and not take church friends away from their families. M was adorable, she’s super smart (not just saying that because I’m her mom). She knew Z was leaving and gave him a huge hug and kiss. She is a great oldest child and big sis. 

A and D have no idea what’s going on. A will notice in about a week that Daddy is gone (pray for me once that happens). 

So what’s changed? I now keep my phone volume turned up at night or really any time I’m not at work. My home is also not as picked up as usual. 

Here’s to a successful week 2.